Liz from NM asks: I will be retiring next month. My daughter and her family live about 15 minutes away, and I’m concerned that my time and energy will be gobbled up by family needs. I see my daughter exhausted from her job as chief cook and bottle washer, with three children–and my instinct is to help in any way I can. But I also look forward to doing things that I’ve never had time to do before.

Congratuations on your retirement! If you can look ahead, think about the days, times, and the amount of times you will typically want and need for yourself (I found that having a structure in my week was helpful–both to me and for setting limits on outside demands–such as part-time volunteering, taking a class, carving out regular times each day for my activities–exercise, gardening, writing, etc.). Then have a talk with your daughter about how best you could be helpful to her family. I can’t think of a better place to be than with my family and my grandchildren, but by setting the limits and honoring that commitment to yourself, you’ll be able to enjoy your new-found precious time. And good role modeling!!! Good luck, and Happy Retirement!
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